If you often feel confused in relationships, unclear about what boundaries are or how to set them, or find yourself doing things you didn't want to do, you might struggle with codependency.
In relationships, you might find yourself saying yes to things you don't really want to do or later regret. Maybe you have trouble saying no, or feel like saying no will upset the other person.
You might feel confused about what you're feeling or why you're feeling that way. You might have frequent conflicts in your relationships and feel like you're always doing something wrong or always being treated badly even though you're just trying to help or just trying to be kind.
If you've struggled for a long time, you might even feel like you're crazy or like something's wrong with you.
It can take a lot of work in therapy to get disentangled, but we can help you understand what's going on and figure out what to do about it. You're not crazy, nothing's wrong with you, and you're not a bad person!
The Discover Counseling Approach to Codependency Counseling in Tigard, OR
At Discover Counseling, we can teach you about healthy boundaries so you can gain a better sense of what's your responsibility and what's not. We can help you see the boundary violations others are committing that are hurting you, and show you the same about yourself so you can understand how you may be unintentionally hurting others.

With better boundaries, you can begin to see your value - maybe for the first time - and take care of yourself. You can protect yourself, learn to set limits for yourself, and stick to the commitments you make to others and to yourself.
Once you can set boundaries and only take responsibility for the things that are yours or that you can control, you can see more clearly the dynamics of your relationships. "Awareness is curative!" When you can be aware of what's going on, you can learn what to do about it - which is so empowering and hopeful!
We know you care about others and want to have healthy relationships. Our caring therapists can help you make the necessary changes so that you can finally be free of guilt, indecision, and regret.
You can feel better about yourself, even learn to love yourself and enjoy your talents and character traits. With codependency treatment, you can say goodbye to insecurity and feeling not good enough or "less than" other people around you.
You can be on time, be consistent, follow-through with things, avoid red flags in relationships, create breathing room for yourself, and feel good about who you are. Maybe for the first time in your life, you can see who you truly are and surround yourself with people who truly care for you.